How should parents encourage their children ( 4 )

Zhu Manhua teachers today continue to talk to us about " How should parents encourage their children "in the subject . On the topic of parents encourage their children , we often say that the so-called opportunity to educate . Encourage your child to not have to take the opportunity to learn , to do to encourage work?

A good relationship with the child's parents is not good, really very important . Thing happened when the child , his heart would be affected , will cause problems. If the parents are sensitive , they should know that the child be educated in a window . Is a child mind open season , so you have to seize this time to teach him , not preaching all day , most kids do not like preaching parents. If you seize the right opportunities for the opportunity of education , this is the most effective. The parents have the opportunity of education, is to see parents with children is not a good relationship . We once had a series of teaching , to teach listeners how to spend time with her children , a relationship with the child . And child relationship when we close , we can seize the opportunity to compare the time of education . Opportunities for education was very effective . Rather than wait until the error has caused many , we have to go back to save , it takes a long time , a lot of energy . Therefore, to encourage parents , regardless of the size of a child , we must seize the opportunity to encourage our children. The children have the child's encouragement, the older children have a large children of encouragement .

Encourage your child to talk about , which is positive. However, we clearly see that very often children deliberately make trouble in some things , obviously should not do is do some things , obviously that mistakes , even with their parents openly revolt . In this case , whether to continue to encourage , to encourage it? Or should be to blame when . This problem is a lot of parents will usually encounter.

When the child before the parents obviously did some things , like sometimes a deliberate challenge to parents . This time we could start by asking why children do . Let the words of the child to express in my heart . Children are often in my heart a lot to , but do not carry , so, in such a way to attract the attention of parents . Or bring out his emotions . Sometimes children do not mind the expression have something out of our parents to help him express . In fact, parents often look a little carefully , you may know why kids do such a thing in my heart what kind of problems . If we can lead children to the words of his heart inside out , helping children to express himself, to help children establish a positive interaction between people , it is very important. When we see children do wrong , we called the child first and do not worry , do not discipline first meal . We need to call one side to the child , ask the child why should we? If the child is less likely to express , we can ask if it was this or that ? Let the children choose. See the child's expression of strong or weak . So let the children express himself. When he 's right that we help her meet the needs of his bad behaviors will be corrected .

For example, there are many online children, not encourage him , because he has spent so much on the line , and then how to do? Usually we have to provide a more interesting things than the internet , can turn his attention . Their children have a very wide range of circumstances , every child is different, and what your child is the reason for his Internet access, parents may take a little time to study . Some children are at home which are not recognized and not recognized ; want to leave the house outside. Anyway, the parents are not home to study , is to do something really boring , not interesting . Hide out of it , at least not be nagging their parents . Hide where? Hide inside the Internet cafes , can not be in possession of day and night , as long as the money is given on the line, more than the money anyway . The child is trying to avoid that unhappy home environment , sometimes the pressure in the escape , the pressure of homework is too much , he could not face going to hide inside the Internet cafes . Sometimes their own hearts lonely . Every child has a lot of reasons. You have to find the reasons for your child to the Internet , is too busy with homework ? Tired ? Because if his grades were good teachers in the school to give him enough recognition , student teachers are sure he . He will not willing to Internet cafes inside . If this is the reason why we should not oppress him in his studies . We need to help him and encourage him. Told him that does not matter, if he has expertise , we encourage him in specialty areas , Internet child we have to think a more interesting than the online thing to divert his attention.

If the kids love to go out to play , you can organize a tour, tourism is more like a child , so the child will leave the Internet cafe . So why the parents of children to study online , must have his reasons. Of course, there are a lot of fun online things . Zhu -year-old teacher had asked her only niece , why they like the Internet ? Her niece replied: "Because a lot of fun . " So you find a more fun than anything online , she will leave the network to play something else. For instance, some children like to play chess , chess , many parents can play chess with them , also to establish the relationship between each other . Parents can even play games online together with their children . You find a good game , with the children , said: " This game is a good child to play with us , " then the child will feel that their parents will not be playing the game as a bad thing . Parents and children with a good time . When comes to an end of a Council , we have to their child: "We are going to eat it! "When the meal later, we can think of other things to divert his attention.

When a child Internet addiction , we parents need to bring back some of his wisdom , rather than to me, and drew him back . Does not rule out the possibility that there is evil . Therefore, parents help children out of addiction when to spend a lot of time to pray , because it is a ferocious power , pray to the evil he cut off the bonds , it is through prayer can be done. Because God told us : " I trust in him who gives me strength in all that we do . " Today, no one can make people from the bonds of addiction , but the Holy Spirit can . By our parents while praying , praying God will give us wisdom on the one hand , what better way to lead the children back .

If you know what your child particularly interested in , and this interest is not bad , you can from one hand to guide him . China is our parents forced their children to school all day . Some children are born not like reading, but you and forced him to study, so he might choose to escape , they fled to go inside bars . Many businessmen or successful people , they may not read many books . But their creativity is not suppressed . Not be stifled , because their parents give them a lot of opportunities . Our generation 's parents do not care children, and free development of their children , may be better. We are the parents it will control the child , but all the way to control their own children . Perhaps the child will bring more pressure .

God help us now parents are concerned about our children , our children love to use the right way. Otherwise children may be worse than both . Now many parents love their children , but do we really want to learn how to parent , how like a little young to understand what the psychological , we can use on the way to slowly guide them . Learn more about our children his special interest , in which his talent is concerned, we can encourage him , help him toward the right direction to learn , play and grow.